Mother’s Who Like To F*ck

becoming a parent doesn’t equate to the death of your libido…

Modest Gold, also known as ‘Miss Gold’, is a photographer, curator, event programmer, and mother. Gold is obsessed with sex, perversions, and fetishism. 

She has been hosting FLINTA events since 2016, which over the last seven years have become ‘One Night’ parties; a space for anyone who has ever been read as a woman. 

She is passionate about education and has become an eminent advocate and spokesperson for issues of motherhood, safe spaces for women, fetishism, D/s lifestyles, relationships, and non-monogamy. She’s spoken on BBC woman’s hour, and has featured on 4Studio, Freeda Media and various established podcasts including ‘Come Curious’. 

I am Imma, Mum, Mummy – but I’m also me. I hope that my strong sense of self and identity will teach my children that it’s okay to be unapologetically yourself. So many mothers feel pressured to identify solely as "Mum," shaped by societal expectations and norms, but I’ve always advocated against that.

Mothers are multifaceted. We have the ability to separate our sexual desires from our role as parents, and we shouldn’t feel guilty for maintaining a sense of self alongside our parenting responsibilities. Parenting is a full-time, all-consuming job, but keeping a part of your identity alive whenever and however you can  is crucial.

For me, practicing BDSM provides a much-needed escape. When I’m able to indulge in it, I feel happier, more grounded, and mentally healthier. And as we all know, a happy parent is a better parent!

I want to share these thoughts, feelings, and reflections with others to remind – or, in some cases, to inform people that being a mother doesn’t mean the death of your sexual self. It’s okay to embrace every part of who you are, and it’s time we start normalising that.

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